Stacey Lapuk, ASID
You’re beginning to understand you haven’t lost “your home”, but “a home”, and that it’s up to you to build a “new home”. You’re starting to internalize the fact that home is more than the place where you sleep. In fact, it’s the place that you choose as the center of your life, where you’re going to energize, create, dream, rest, share with your children and entertain friends and eventually, bring that special one over to enjoy the beauty of sharing a space that defines who you are.
Why You’re Wonderful and What That Means
1. You want to make things right.
Men, by nature, want to fix things, solve problems. It’s an inborn need and desire to succeed.
It’s one of the things that makes, men, men. Women, in general and by nature, thrive in a
nurturing role. Their love for their children overflows. They find themselves however, being the
primary care-giver, the cook, the keeper of the schedules.
2. You have a deeper understanding of taking care of others, particularly members of the other sex.
Unlike someone who has never married and tends to be more set in their ways, you have
learned how to co-define reality. This means you have had an opportunity to see yourself
through another’s eye as well as your own, providing a deeper understanding of what makes
you tick – where your strengths are, and a drive to share those attributes with others. The
important 2nd impression (the first being meeting you, of course), of how these qualities are
perceived is your new home interior design and how you’ve chosen to live.
3. You very often have children.
This can be very attractive to single men and women, many of whom have chosen not to have
children for a variety of reasons. Your kids may offer them an opportunity to interact with
children – whether they’re three or thirty – without the pressure of having their own. This also
means that your new home interior design must be a home for them, as well as for yourself. A place they’ll want to
come visit or even live, where they’ll feel their own sense of “home” – comfortable and safe.
Even more, you probably don’t want your kids feeling sorry for Dad living out of boxes, with only
a leather sofa and TV, or Mom holding onto something that no longer serves her or your family.
Lastly, you want your children to want to be with you, to love being in your new home.
What Your Home Wants
What would it feel like to create a real home, a comfortable space where you can feel nurtured and supported, and relax after a crazy day at work? Where you feel pride entertaining friends and business associates. Where your relationship with your children can continue to blossom and grow. And when you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, bringing dates home. You’re more likely now than divorcees in the past, to care about what your new home interior design looks and feels like. You want a home that’s comfortable for your family, but not necessarily a family home.
The reality is that your new home interior design has to balance a number of important characteristics.
Cheerful comfort for your children and a design reflecting Mom or Dad as a single gal or guy at
home, as well as being attractive to potential romantic partners. Definitely your new house, but
with a softness and personality to it.
Creating a home with warmth, as a fresh place to start over isn’t difficult, but it can be tricky. If you’re not careful, you can waste a lot of time, make expensive mistakes and embarrassing decisions.
Generally speaking, men tend to be less design-savvy than women. And women tend to believe they are supposed to be able to figure it out, or should be born with an ability. You may know what you like and what you don’t like, but there are two things you usually can’t do: You have no idea where to buy what you need (there’s way more to life than Restoration Hardware!), and you don’t know how to pull it all together. You want to transform your new home interior, not create a garage sale or a catalog page.
<style=”margin: 0px; padding: 0px;” />The good news is that given the right information so you can make informed choices, you tend to make your design decisions quickly. This will help to move your project along, and be completed that much faster.Divorce is hard. Knowing you can rest your head in a warm and inviting home specifically designed for you, will ease your transition into your new life.
What Your Home Needs
Know that your new home interior is your healing place. To be as impactful as possible, you’ll want to pay attention to the following:
- The right flow of space, furniture placement, air and light.
- Make certain your furniture purchases are quality-, not trend-driven.
- Your colors, in paint or other wall finish, fabrics, flooring and tile are balanced.
- Your window treatments address privacy, light control and provide the right aesthetic for you.
- Artwork or photos are framed and hung with thought.
- Nice dishes, glasses, towels and sheets are all the little things that make a house a home.
- Your home functions properly – you have enough room for the number of guests or family you would typically host, you have enough storage and closet space, you’re attentive to where outlets need to be (under the sofa, for example, to accommodate side table lamps), and (for we’re all growing a bit older), handles that are levers, rather than knobs and low-slip flooring.
- There’s a perfectly comfortable spot for you to decompress.
- There’s a perfectly wonderful spot for you to entertain romantic partners.
If children are in the picture, making the transition for them as seamless as possible is a priority. This means designing a new home interior where they can feel, well, at home. Not in their Dad’s old dorm room, or where Mom may feel alone, but rather in the sort of place they’ve been used to.
You’ll want the space to be practical for them as well – where you can do “parent” things, like make pizza on weekends or do science experiments. They’ll need a space in which to do their homework, as well as space to entertain their own friends.
A home becomes special when it becomes an extension of the person(s) who live in it. An interior should be like a perfectly tailored suit: It should fit your lifestyle well, make you feel great, and hint a little about who you are on the inside.